The hug analogy was perfect! As someone who learnt non-attachment from my parents (a rare blessing), I have found it so hard to explain why moving on or making a change is a lot easier to me than it is to them. You have penned it down so beautifully!
The hug analogy was perfect! As someone who learnt non-attachment from my parents (a rare blessing), I have found it so hard to explain why moving on or making a change is a lot easier to me than it is to them. You have penned it down so beautifully!
Thank you so much for reading and taking the time to comment, Nivetha 🖤 It is so lovely to hear that the hug resonated with some people. I was trying to think of something I could compare it with, and a hug felt like a good fit, but I wasn't sure whether people would connect with it.
Please tell me more about some things your parents taught you about non-attachment. Unfortunately, this wasn't the case in my family, so I would love to hear and learn more from others.
I think attachment comes from the importance we give to permanence and control. Attachment comes from conditional love that takes or gives at someone's cost. My parents neither expected or gave me love in a way to make me feel indebted. Hearing the words - 'If not this time, then next.'
'You can only do so much for others, in the end they have to take care of themselves.' -
and them being open to the drastic changes I brought into their world, it made a huge impact on how I feel love.
The hug analogy was perfect! As someone who learnt non-attachment from my parents (a rare blessing), I have found it so hard to explain why moving on or making a change is a lot easier to me than it is to them. You have penned it down so beautifully!
Thank you so much for reading and taking the time to comment, Nivetha 🖤 It is so lovely to hear that the hug resonated with some people. I was trying to think of something I could compare it with, and a hug felt like a good fit, but I wasn't sure whether people would connect with it.
Please tell me more about some things your parents taught you about non-attachment. Unfortunately, this wasn't the case in my family, so I would love to hear and learn more from others.
I actually ended up writing about it in my post - https://piquedpilgrim.substack.com/p/with-love-detached?r=3wp3c4
I think attachment comes from the importance we give to permanence and control. Attachment comes from conditional love that takes or gives at someone's cost. My parents neither expected or gave me love in a way to make me feel indebted. Hearing the words - 'If not this time, then next.'
'You can only do so much for others, in the end they have to take care of themselves.' -
and them being open to the drastic changes I brought into their world, it made a huge impact on how I feel love.
I love the part that your parents never made you feel indebted 🥺 so beautiful. Thank you for sharing your post. I will read it 🖤