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Stephan Kunze's avatar

This is a great piece, and a strong reminder. Thanks for writing it.

I think it all comes down to the 'identity' we build in and for society, but also for ourselves. That identity is not something that is fixed, but – as you put it – fluid, or evolving, changing.

It's not about changing your basic ideals and outlooks constantly. But it's also not about fulfilling others' expectations of what your identity is supposed to be/look/sound/feel like.

In my experience, the main factor was to stop making other people's approval a precondition for my happiness. If they think you're not 'real' feminist/vegan/queer person, then so be it. You don't need that label – just live according to your own values, and you'll be fine. Sounds so easy, but it's actually one of the hardest things to do in life.

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Dave pearen's avatar

How about just being you and forget about group politics fluidity is freedom . Time to break the cage.

Take care tugba . Great piece!

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