I read in Rollo May’s book “Man’s Search For Himself” where a patient said to him “I feel like a collection of mirrors reflecting back what other people expect of me”. That hit me. Not knowing who you really are because you’ve built your identity by choosing to show us as other people would want you to. The last few years I’ve been fascinating by the idea of pulling back all of the layers and finding out who is underneath it all.
I totally missed your comment, Vipul! I need to read Man's Search for Himself. I agree that the older we get, the more it's about unlearning and getting rid of the layers. Have a great weekend 🖤
« No is a complete sentence » that one touched me so much I cried in the bus >< thanks for this post, don’t even know how to write ah ah boundaries are so important but at same time , I feel sometimes selfish when I put them, especially with my family! You’re completely right when you say that cutting people out of your life is easier said than done, it’s not facing the problem, it’s just running away from it. That’s very challenging
Oh, Lyly, thank you so much! It is such a tough one. But I do think awareness is the first step to making progress :) and maybe even half of the battle. Without awareness, we can't even try practising
I loved this so deeply. It’s probably because I feel like it could have been a note written directly to me. Boundaries are incredibly challenging for me. I appreciated this perspective, these thoughts, and the beautiful poem.
Thank you, Lauren! I really feel you. For us sensitive people, it's sometimes even more challenging because we worry so much that we will upset people. And yes, this may and will happen but it is also part of living. It is harder to walk on eggshells all our life than trying, with maybe the occasional misstep
Love how you related your sculpture work to the process of figuring out how you relate to boundaries. Earlier this year during Venus retrograde, I had some big revelations about boundaries. How they must change and stretch as we change. How much it has to do with trusting myself - that’s really what it comes down to for me, I discovered. I’ve been reflecting on the year, on relationships, redefining my boundaries based on commitments I’ve made to myself...much like my artistry, it is process-driven. As you said, there is no finish line. It is all continuous fabric.
Hola , Interesante Articulo Y Bello Poema. Sobre los Espejos: Mírate Y Ve , Y Si No Te Ves , Reflejate En Otros Ojos , Qué Los Espejos Falsifican La Realidad Y No Especifican. No Té Desgarres , Valorate , Admirate. ¡¡¡ Sal A La Vida !!!. Un Saludo.
Muchas gracias por todo su apoyo. Realmente aprecio que te hayas tomado el tiempo de comentar mi escrito :) Realmente significa mucho. Tus palabras siempre son un gran aporte. Por cierto, sigo olvidándome de decirte que ¡me encanta tu nombre de Substack!
I read in Rollo May’s book “Man’s Search For Himself” where a patient said to him “I feel like a collection of mirrors reflecting back what other people expect of me”. That hit me. Not knowing who you really are because you’ve built your identity by choosing to show us as other people would want you to. The last few years I’ve been fascinating by the idea of pulling back all of the layers and finding out who is underneath it all.
I totally missed your comment, Vipul! I need to read Man's Search for Himself. I agree that the older we get, the more it's about unlearning and getting rid of the layers. Have a great weekend 🖤
« No is a complete sentence » that one touched me so much I cried in the bus >< thanks for this post, don’t even know how to write ah ah boundaries are so important but at same time , I feel sometimes selfish when I put them, especially with my family! You’re completely right when you say that cutting people out of your life is easier said than done, it’s not facing the problem, it’s just running away from it. That’s very challenging
Oh, Lyly, thank you so much! It is such a tough one. But I do think awareness is the first step to making progress :) and maybe even half of the battle. Without awareness, we can't even try practising
I loved this so deeply. It’s probably because I feel like it could have been a note written directly to me. Boundaries are incredibly challenging for me. I appreciated this perspective, these thoughts, and the beautiful poem.
Thank you, Lauren! I really feel you. For us sensitive people, it's sometimes even more challenging because we worry so much that we will upset people. And yes, this may and will happen but it is also part of living. It is harder to walk on eggshells all our life than trying, with maybe the occasional misstep
Love how you related your sculpture work to the process of figuring out how you relate to boundaries. Earlier this year during Venus retrograde, I had some big revelations about boundaries. How they must change and stretch as we change. How much it has to do with trusting myself - that’s really what it comes down to for me, I discovered. I’ve been reflecting on the year, on relationships, redefining my boundaries based on commitments I’ve made to myself...much like my artistry, it is process-driven. As you said, there is no finish line. It is all continuous fabric.
Hola , Interesante Articulo Y Bello Poema. Sobre los Espejos: Mírate Y Ve , Y Si No Te Ves , Reflejate En Otros Ojos , Qué Los Espejos Falsifican La Realidad Y No Especifican. No Té Desgarres , Valorate , Admirate. ¡¡¡ Sal A La Vida !!!. Un Saludo.
Muchas gracias por todo su apoyo. Realmente aprecio que te hayas tomado el tiempo de comentar mi escrito :) Realmente significa mucho. Tus palabras siempre son un gran aporte. Por cierto, sigo olvidándome de decirte que ¡me encanta tu nombre de Substack!
Hola , Gracias A Ti , Por Tú Arte E Inteligencia. Tú Nombre Es Muy Hermoso. Un Saludo.