I so relate to this Tugba. My Irish grandfather jumped ship in Australia a the start of the second world war for the chance to build a life away from the poverty he grew up with in Ireland. My parents generation were raised in the hard times after the war, at a time when the area they were occupying in Australia was rough as guts. I was constantly told I was lazy any time I wasn't doing something really hard. I just returned from 16 days of "holiday" in Portugal during which I worked the entire time. I couldn't stomach taking the entire time off so I squeezed in clients and client work in the evenings. It took me 10 days to be able to actually relax on the beach during the day, when I wasn't working.
So much work to do around this (notice how I used the word "work" to describe healing?), so much releasing and forgiving and letting go. My work (which I love) requires me to be available for the people I serve, so next year I am resolved to try one week on, one week off over a 4 week period.
Caitlin, thank you for sharing! It's wild how we inherit these things and, in some cases, are unaware of them for many years. This hyper-productivity-obsessed society that we live in doesn't help to bring these things to the surface level and heal. On the contrary, it makes things worse. We then try and combat all the stress with Meditation and countless other tools. Don't get me wrong, Meditation is a beautiful practice, but sometimes we use these practices like a bandaid until there is a next wound, but we don't work on the things that keep causing these wounds.
Interesting. I think the practice of meditation combined with the hyper-productivity-obsessed culture can actually help us. When we connect into presence and alignment with our meditation practice, the wounds all come rising to the surface of our consciousness to be seen, heard, loved and unburdened. But I also hear where you are coming from in that I see many people using meditation and yoga for example to "rise above" their wounding, trying to bypass the need we all have to to be seen and heard, most deeply, by ourselves. Rather, we need to engage with meditation in order to connect with ourselves, cultivate the courage to be with what comes up and surrender into the divine support we find there. In this way, obstacles and inculturated bullshit become our teachers, triggering our wounds that we then get to witness, embrace with our compassion and unburden. Without the outside triggers it can be harder to find the inner pain.
Agree, and I'm a firm believer in Mindfulness Practices. They have been life-changing for me. I was referring to something called spiritual bypassing. Unfortunately, Meditation is also often used to avoid the core problems that burn us out.
And; I've been hearing about an interesting study around epigenetics a lot recently where one generation of mice (sorry) were exposed to a specific smell at the same time as being subjected to an electric shock. The mice went on to have offspring who were never subjected to the shock but had the same flight response upon being exposed to the smell that their parents associated with the shock. This flight response upon exposure to the smell went of for 3 or 4 generations.
I so relate to this Tugba. My Irish grandfather jumped ship in Australia a the start of the second world war for the chance to build a life away from the poverty he grew up with in Ireland. My parents generation were raised in the hard times after the war, at a time when the area they were occupying in Australia was rough as guts. I was constantly told I was lazy any time I wasn't doing something really hard. I just returned from 16 days of "holiday" in Portugal during which I worked the entire time. I couldn't stomach taking the entire time off so I squeezed in clients and client work in the evenings. It took me 10 days to be able to actually relax on the beach during the day, when I wasn't working.
So much work to do around this (notice how I used the word "work" to describe healing?), so much releasing and forgiving and letting go. My work (which I love) requires me to be available for the people I serve, so next year I am resolved to try one week on, one week off over a 4 week period.
Caitlin, thank you for sharing! It's wild how we inherit these things and, in some cases, are unaware of them for many years. This hyper-productivity-obsessed society that we live in doesn't help to bring these things to the surface level and heal. On the contrary, it makes things worse. We then try and combat all the stress with Meditation and countless other tools. Don't get me wrong, Meditation is a beautiful practice, but sometimes we use these practices like a bandaid until there is a next wound, but we don't work on the things that keep causing these wounds.
Interesting. I think the practice of meditation combined with the hyper-productivity-obsessed culture can actually help us. When we connect into presence and alignment with our meditation practice, the wounds all come rising to the surface of our consciousness to be seen, heard, loved and unburdened. But I also hear where you are coming from in that I see many people using meditation and yoga for example to "rise above" their wounding, trying to bypass the need we all have to to be seen and heard, most deeply, by ourselves. Rather, we need to engage with meditation in order to connect with ourselves, cultivate the courage to be with what comes up and surrender into the divine support we find there. In this way, obstacles and inculturated bullshit become our teachers, triggering our wounds that we then get to witness, embrace with our compassion and unburden. Without the outside triggers it can be harder to find the inner pain.
Agree, and I'm a firm believer in Mindfulness Practices. They have been life-changing for me. I was referring to something called spiritual bypassing. Unfortunately, Meditation is also often used to avoid the core problems that burn us out.
And; I've been hearing about an interesting study around epigenetics a lot recently where one generation of mice (sorry) were exposed to a specific smell at the same time as being subjected to an electric shock. The mice went on to have offspring who were never subjected to the shock but had the same flight response upon being exposed to the smell that their parents associated with the shock. This flight response upon exposure to the smell went of for 3 or 4 generations.