36 Things I’ve Learned In My 36 Years
In honour of my birthday, I thought I would share a few life lessons I’ve learned in my 36 years. I want to remind myself of the progress I have made throughout life. Writing this list was very therapeutic for me. Enjoy!
1. My life is better when I work from the assumption that everyone is doing the best they can.
2. Sometimes people come into our lives to teach us how to love and sometimes people come into our lives to teach us how NOT to love.
3. We make assumptions because we don’t have the courage to ask questions.
4. It’s not about letting it go. It’s about learning to feel grateful that it has crossed my way.
5. It is our behaviour in conflict that says everything about who we are.
6. People come with a history.
7. If you have to abandon yourself in order for any relationship to work, that is NOT Love.
8. Friendships are so important but you DON’T have to be friends with everyone.
9. Listening is often the only thing needed to help someone.
10. Endings don’t have to be messy.
11. Absolutely nothing is worth the price of my health & peace of mind.
12. Trouble looms when monogamy is no longer a free expression of loyalty but a form of enforced compliance.
13. Keep Reading every day.
14. Give everyone the benefit of the doubt.
15. When you have the choice between being right and being kind, choose being kind.
16. Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.
17. Very little is needed for a happy life. It is all within myself.
18. A sign of growth is being okay with not being okay.
19. Trying to analyze a feeling is still not feeling it.
20. We are supposed to have needs. It’s called being human!
21. If you think you are enlightened, go spend a week with your family.¹
22. The attitude of “that’s how I’m take it or leave it” is a sign of immaturity.
23. Don’t believe everything the mind tells you.
24. Motherhood isn’t for everyone.
25. Any view is just from one point that is why it’s called a point of view.
26. All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.²
27. Sleep — the most underrated of medicines.
28. Your habits shape your identity and your identity shapes your habits.
29. Emotions make me who I’m and I shouldn’t feel ashamed that I’m a feeler.
30. In times of uncertainty, your habits can ground you.
31. Even when we feel like we’ve reached our absolute limit — we still have 40% (if not more)
32. It’s the expectations of our mind that create hell and our inability to simply be.
33. Everything in life is about priorities.
34. The leading cause of stress is my brain.
35. When a person tells you that you hurt them, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t.
36. We spend our whole lives learning to live.
[1] Quote by Ram Dass
[2] Quote by Blaise Pascal